So I can now class myself as a pro in this situation… I got married 3 years ago and the thought of walking down the aisle with all eyes on me was quite frankly terrifying. I know I’m not the only one that felt this way, and I’m sure everyone who reads this will be feeling the same way too… Fear not my men and women out there, its not as bad as you think, in fact it’s fantastic! Sit back… I’m going to tell you all about mine, and other peoples experiences…
The run up to the wedding, and on the morning of the wedding, all I wanted was the ceremony part to be over so I could relax and start to enjoy the day. I suppose it’s the same for anyone who’s doing a speech. I remember the hours ticking by on the run up to the ceremony with waves of butterflies exploding in my stomach. I think I made life difficult for the photographer as I kept pulling silly I’m scared faces when ever she tried to take a picture of me. The time finally came when everyone left me and it was just my brother and I waiting to go and see the registrar. I remember pacing the room hyperventilating! The walk from the room where I was getting ready to the ceremony room, was, and still is a blur. I answered questions the registrars was asking me, and have no recollection of what she asked. I was ridiculously nervous!
I’m waiting and waiting, my brother in one arm, my bouquet in the other… I hear the music and I’m off like a sprinter at the start line, racing to get to the finish. Thankfully my Brother and I had had a dress rehearsal the evening before, it was quite a short aisle and I wanted everyone to hear the music we had chosen. I remember him tugging at my arm, holding me back. Then I looked up and saw everyone with heads turned looking our way. Instead of blushing and looking away, I started to smile and greet everyone as I was walking past, after all these are your closest friends and family, its so special to have all of the people you love in your life, all in one room together. I was happy beyond belief, all of a sudden I was feeling as light as air, almost wafting down the aisle. I don’t really remember looking at my husband to be until I got by his side, I was so engrossed in my guests, saying hello to everyone.
Now guys, I can’t stress this enough… Look at the one you’re marrying and not the one who’s marrying you. I’ve been to so many weddings where the couples are so nervous they forget to look at each other. These vows are important, they’re life binding, and do you know what, its over in a flash so pay attention. I was so scared I was going to mess up my lines and say it all back to front. Don’t sweat it, honestly. How many of us have been to a ceremony where someone has fluffed up their turn to speak, or just not spoken at all! See it as giving your guests a little light entertainment prior to the big I do. Yes people will giggle but that’s a good thing, it breaks the tension. I remember holding hands with my husband and we were both just smiling at each other. We didn’t fluff our lines, we were actually quite good. Then before I knew it I had a ring on my finger and I said it… I DO! We hugged and kissed and it was done.
Another part you all may be nervous about is the signing of the register. I was nervous about spelling my own name wrong! Don’t be, you’re guided step by step, its fool proof. looking up at a room full of people almost shoving each other out of the way to get a good picture is also not as embarrassing as you think. By that point you’ve done what you thought was the hard bit and you’re just sat, chilled, soaking up what’s just happened. So smile and beam away.
My second big tip… once you’re up and out of that chair, ready to walk back up the aisle again, hold that bouquet of yours down. I’ve tutored so many brides where the best place is to hold the flowers… holding it in both hands with your forearms resting on your hips is the most comfortable, and natural place. What did I do… I had it all up in my face, waving it around. Be cool with your flowers, you wear them and not the other way around. I remember my photographer miming to me to lower my bouquet, which I guiltily did in a flash!
My overall summery of my wedding ceremony was… it was the best part of the day, honestly it was. Since having done it myself I’ve spoken with so many other people who felt the same way prior, and came away with it being the best moment of their life… My last top tip is… trust me, you’re going to love it!